Honestly I would replace Ubuntu with an actual operating system designed for servers.

Trillium

You’re most welcome.

If I create a private community for all my family members it remains private while I selfhost. If I create it on someone else’s server it ain’t that private because the admin could be eavesdropping.

That would be next to impossible to fix because the issue lies with the protocols not with the framework using the protocols.

Well it is a different type of mail system. I use it for catch all. I have like 200 domain names for various projects or registered to sell and I want to catch all emails sent to those domains without setting them up in mailcow. With Anonaddy I verify their DNS records and that’s it. I can capture all emails sent to them and forward to a specific address. Also, I can use whatever email address I want with whatever domain I want to subscribe to services and keep track of who sells my email for instance. They also have a Chrome extension that you can use to generate emails, but imho that is overkill. Then if you see that one email gets too much spam you can simply delete that forwarder and it gets rejected in the future.

Yes, with mailcow.email and a catchall and random email system with Anonaddy.

I run my own instance because I have the resources, I intend to create communities and it is much more private this way.

You are still giving them traffic, just not directly.

Privacy wise for me it is more convenient to run my own instance and have my own private communities.

With this Docker image: lscr.io/linuxserver/code-server

Here is a sample docker-compose.yml.

edit: replaced code block with link due to the formatting being a complete mess

Well thanks to the soon to be dead /r/selfhosted on reddit I started selfhosting few years ago and now approximately 90% of my stuff is selfhosted:

• Gitlab
• RocketChat
• VS Code
• Anonaddy
• Etherpad
• Min.io
• Archivebox
• FreshRSS
• FileStash
• Matomo
• InfiniteWP
• piHole

as daily drivers and several others that I use from time to time.